For Parents of Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors

Another One of Those Days

Today was another one of those days. From the moment your child’s feet hit the floor, it was a battle — nonstop arguing, explosive tantrums, flat-out refusals, and outbursts that seemed to come out of nowhere. The sound of yelling still echoes in your head. Your body has been bracing for impact all day, waiting for the next meltdown, the next slammed door, the next time your child’s frustration spills over into aggression.

And then there are the other days — the quiet ones that somehow hurt just as much. The days when your child shuts down completely. They avoid your eyes, retreat to their room, ignore your voice. They drift into daydreams, nod along to keep the peace, or collapse into people-pleasing just to avoid conflict. They seem miles away, lost in a fog you can’t break through, no matter how much you try.

Living in a State of Exhaustion

By the time you finally fall into bed, you’re beyond exhausted — emotionally wrung out, physically depleted, and holding on to the smallest signs of survival. Sure, someone ate something you cooked. The kids wore (probably) clean underwear. And bedtime negotiations “only” took two rounds instead of five. In your world, that counts as progress. But beneath that thin layer of relief sits the heavy truth: this is still so unbearably hard.

Why It Feels So Lonely

If you’re living this day after day, you know it’s not just exhausting — it’s isolating. Friends and family mean well, but their advice often misses the mark. They don’t see the full picture: the hours you’ve spent trying sticker charts, calm voices, deep breathing, time-ins, time-outs… only to have it all unravel in seconds. They don’t understand why you can’t just “be consistent” or “follow through” — because they’ve never tried to parent a child whose nervous system is always either on high alert or shut down completely.

You’ve read the books. You’ve tried the strategies. You’ve had the late-night conversations with your partner that spiral into arguments because neither of you knows what else to do. And in the quiet moments — when the house is finally still — you find yourself wondering if you’re failing your child… or if you’re somehow the problem.

You’re Not Failing — You’re Parenting a Different Kind of Nervous System

You’re parenting a child with a sensitive, easily overwhelmed nervous system — and that changes everything. These behaviors aren’t about defiance or disrespect; they’re signals. Clues. Messages from a nervous system that doesn’t yet feel safe enough to relax, connect, and cooperate. And you don’t have to keep trying to figure it out alone.

A New Way Forward

There’s a different way forward — one that doesn’t rely on more consequences, lectures, or “staying consistent” until you’re burned out. It starts with understanding the brain and body science behind your child’s behavior and learning how to respond in ways that create safety, connection, and trust.

My parent coaching and small group offerings are grounded in the transformative approach developed by Robyn Gobbel, MSW, and outlined in her best-selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors. I completed Robyn’s year-long immersion program and am certified to provide both the full parent course and individualized 1:1 coaching using her trusted framework, materials, and resources.

This framework helps you decode what’s really going on beneath your child’s actions — and gives you practical, brain-based tools that actually work for your unique family. When you know how to see your child through this lens, you can finally move from constant conflict and self-doubt to connection, clarity, and hope.

Ways to Work with Me

Parenting a child with big, baffling behaviors isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey — and neither is getting the right support. Every family’s situation is unique: your child’s needs, your capacity, your schedule, your learning style, and even how much bandwidth you have left at the end of a hard day.

That’s why I offer multiple ways to access the same powerful, science-backed Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors framework. Whether you thrive in the encouragement of a small group, want the momentum of an immersive weekend workshop, or need the privacy and personalization of one-on-one coaching, there’s an option that can meet you where you are.

In every format, you’ll get the same compassionate, shame-free guidance rooted in interpersonal neurobiology, attachment, and the science of felt safety — along with practical tools you can actually use in the heat of the moment. Together, we’ll find the approach that fits your family best so you can start moving from overwhelm and survival toward clarity, connection, and hope.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

Parenting a child with big, baffling behaviors can feel relentless and isolating — but there’s hope. Whether you choose a small group, an immersive weekend workshop, or 1:1 coaching, you’ll gain practical tools, new perspective, and the confidence to respond with connection instead of constant conflict.

Let’s take the first step together.

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We’ll talk about what’s going on at home, what you’ve already tried, and how this approach can bring more calm, connection, and hope to your family.