Parenting Counseling
In Person and Virtual Parenting Counseling in Colorado
Parenting Counseling for Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors
Another One of Those Days
You don’t need another parenting book. You need a parenting counselor who can help you integrate the information, trust your intuition, and parent with integrity.
Today was another one of those days. From the moment your child’s feet hit the floor, it was a battle, nonstop arguing, explosive tantrums, flat-out refusals, and outbursts that seemed to come out of nowhere. The sound of yelling still echoes in your head. Your body has been bracing for impact all day, waiting for the next meltdown, the next slammed door, the next time your child’s frustration spills over into aggression.
And then there are the other days, the quiet ones that somehow hurt just as much. The days when your child shuts down completely. They avoid your eyes, retreat to their room, and ignore your voice. They drift into daydreams, nod along to keep the peace, or collapse into people-pleasing to avoid conflict. They seem miles away, lost in a fog you can’t break through, no matter how much you try.
Living in a state of exhaustion
By the time you finally fall into bed, you’re beyond exhausted, emotionally wrung out, physically depleted, and holding on to the smallest signs of survival. Sure, someone ate something you cooked. The kids wore (probably) clean underwear. And bedtime negotiations “only” took two rounds instead of five. In your world, that counts as progress. But beneath that thin layer of relief sits the heavy truth: this is still so unbearably hard.
Parenting feels so lonely and shameful
If you’re living this day after day, you know it’s not just exhausting it’s isolating. Friends and family mean well, but their advice often misses the mark. They don’t see the full picture: the hours you’ve spent trying sticker charts, calm voices, deep breathing, time-ins, time-outs… only to have it all unravel in seconds. They don’t understand why you can’t just “be consistent” or “follow through” because they’ve never tried to parent a child whose nervous system is always either on high alert or shut down completely.
You’ve read the books. You’ve tried the strategies. You’ve had the late-night conversations with your partner that spiral into arguments because neither of you knows what else to do. And in the quiet moments when the house is finally still, you find yourself wondering if you’re failing your child, or if you’re somehow the problem.
You’re Not Failing! You’re parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system
You’re parenting a child with a sensitive, easily overwhelmed nervous system, and that changes everything. These behaviors aren’t about defiance or disrespect; they’re signals. Clues. Messages from a nervous system that doesn’t yet feel safe enough to relax, connect, and cooperate. And you don’t have to keep trying to figure it out alone.
Parenting Counseling that focuses on the nervous system to change behavior
There’s a different way forward, one that doesn’t rely on more consequences, lectures, or “staying consistent” until you’re burned out. It starts with understanding the brain and body science behind your child’s behavior and learning how to respond in ways that create safety, connection, and trust.
The parenting counseling I offer is grounded in the transformative approach I learned in the year-long Big Baffling Behaviors Institute Immersion Program led by Robyn Gobbel, MSW. I utilize this framework in all of my parent consultation sessions with my ongoing child therapy clients as well as offer it to parents who are seeking support for themselves, regardless of if thier child is working with a therapist or not.
Erin Bennetts, LCSW, RPTS
Completed the Raising Kids with Big Baffling Behaviors Immersion Program in 2024
This framework helps you decode what’s really going on beneath your child’s actions and gives you practical, brain-based tools that actually work for your unique family. When you know how to see your child through this lens, you can finally move from constant conflict and self-doubt to connection, clarity, and hope.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
Parenting a child with big, baffling behaviors can feel relentless and isolating, but there’s hope. You’ll gain practical tools, a new perspective, and the confidence to respond with connection instead of engaging in a never-ending loop of behavior whack-a-mole (thank you, Robyn, for the best description ever of trying to implement behavior modification strategies)!
Let’s take the first step together.
Schedule your free 20 minute video consultation
We’ll talk about what’s going on at home, what you’ve already tried, and how this approach can bring more calm, connection, and hope to your family.
Parent With Confidence, Even on the Hard Days.
Learn how to understand your child’s behavior, respond with connection, and feel more confident, connected, and supported.
Book your free parenting counseling consultation today and take the first step toward the change you’ve been hoping for.
What You’ll learn, experience, and practice during Parenting Counseling Sessions (and beyond)
Phase 1: Understand what behavior really is
You'll learn how to view your child’s behavior as a clue—an external signal that points to what’s going on inside. Through the lens of interpersonal neurobiology and attachment science, we’ll explore how nervous system dysregulation shapes your child’s responses and why connection and felt safety are essential for real behavior change. As your understanding deepens, you’ll begin to interpret both your child’s actions and your own reactions with more compassion and clarity, laying the groundwork for a stronger, more connected relationship.
Phase 2: Build a Toolkit that works
You’ll build a personalized toolkit of brain- and body-based strategies designed to support your child’s regulation in real-life moments, not just in theory. Rather than offering one-size-fits-all solutions, we’ll practice applying interventions that are developmentally appropriate and grounded in neuroscience, so you can confidently choose the tools that actually match your child’s unique nervous system and needs.
Phase 3: Grow Your Capacity
We’ll explore why simply knowing what to do isn’t enough and why that doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent. Together, we’ll work on exploring how the messages we receive and our own mental models shape our parenting. We will discover that at times, these are the biggest hurdles to overcome (and we will conquer them). We will grow your capacity to stay grounded when things get hard, so you can move from reactive patterns to intentional, compassionate responses even in the middle of chaos.